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Music at cocktails or the reception is one of the responsibilities that even the most controlling bride will often delegate to the groom. Also, it's an aspect of the wedding about which a good groom is expected to have a binding and unassailable opinion. So, before you're saddled with all the decisions on this front, take some time to consider all the angles.

What type of music should you have at your wedding?

The kind of music you provide on your wedding day is about the kind of music you enjoy as a couple. This is not for your aunt Matilda, nor your nephew who's into punk. If you like Acid Jazz, don't feel badly that your sister won't be able to bump to Beyonce (or other flavor of the week). The music should say something about you as a couple and your particular tastes. Don't be intimidated by an obligation to placate everyone in the room, or you'll be left with a bland, forgettable evening.

Where do I find the musicians I want?

One place to ask is at your reception venue. If they recommend someone or an ensemble, it means that the venue and the vendor have a good rapport. If the band or agency has worked the location before, they know the dynamics of the room and it saves a lot of hassle. It is also likely that if the venue recommends the band, they have seen them rock the room.

The Big Question - Live Music or DJ?

Something about having a live band creates an audience dynamic that can't be replicated. Now this comes with a big IF. Live music is always better IF you have a favorite genre of music and that's pretty much all you need to hear to have a perfect night.

Every band has a musical focus, and the great thing about that is, they'll be able to play your favorite songs better than anyone else in town. If you love blues, do yourself a favor and get a real blues band. They'll be able to play a range of music - r&b, blues, standards, maybe some pop, but don't expect them to play disco hits very well.

If you and your fiancée have disparate tastes or you need to hear a wide range of music, then you're going to want to have a DJ. When looking for a DJ, try to find one that has both club and wedding experience or you may end up with either an esoteric euro lounge, or worse, the "Chicken Dance."

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DJRockitman
Mon, Apr.27th 2009
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The kind of music you provide on your wedding day is about the kind of music you enjoy as a couple I am all for playing the music the couple like but if you spend $20K on a wedding reception and your guests leave early is it worth it? Work with your DJ and get a DJ from ADJA.org This is a good site for find quality DJ in your area. They have a list of ten questions to ask your DJ.
Scott M
Tue, Mar.10th 2009
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You invite your guests to your reception to help celebrate your wedding. They bring you gifts and money. You MUST be considerate to them as far as the music is concerned. I've DJ'd hundreds of weddings in my 15+ years experience and nothing drives away your guests faster (other than no open bar) than the wrong music YOU chose because it's what YOU want. The best thing is to break the evening up into two halves. Keep it easy and conservative for the first hour or two after dinner (there's tons of oldies, easy top 40, etc. that everybody loves to dance to) and then crank it up later. The older crowd tends to leave after a couple hours, then the party takes on a nightclub atmosphere. NEVER disregard your guests and ask for YOUR hard rock or profanity-laced hip-hop right after dinner when your grandparents are still in attendance. Stick with a good, highly-recommended DJ. You never know what you're going to get with a live band. Sure live music is fun, but your song choices will be limited not to mention that I've heard some asolutely bhorrible bands at wedding receptions. Plus, you'll save some money in the process.
Jason
Mon, Jan.7th 2008
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Sorry about the delay on your response - Jimi, my suggestion is to break the night into two pieces - Call one "The Reception" and the other "the After party". Take about 90 minutes (just after dinner) to have the big band play. Have them even play your first dance if you want. Then get the DJ for the "Afterparty" to rock with all the young people. Older people usually will clear before the end anyhow. Hope this helps... let me know if you have any other questions. J
Andrew
Fri, Nov.30th 2007
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jimi D You said it: "I want a big band to play." It's your wedding dude. And as for a DJ - get him to play some oldies mixed in with Kanye West.
jimi D
Sun, Nov.25th 2007
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My family is really musical they all play some sort of instrument and he has many friends who can play. I want a big band to play. Now my dad would probably want to play along with my brother. Problem is they can't play all night because I want them to have a good time and i live in hickville usa so big band won't be the best for all night. I want to have a DJ afterwards to fix this problem but the older family members will ahte rap and other modern music. What do I do

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