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planning the rehearsal dinner [Page 1 of 3]

Whether you're having a formal wedding or one in your backyard wedding, the wedding rehearsal dinner is an opportunity to relax with friends and family before the demands of wedding day kick in. It's typically one of the groom's duties to plan a rehearsal dinner. The guys at GroomGroove.com vote in favor of taking it easy, and for grooms to volunteer to plan it.

The Groom and His Family Plan and Pay for the Rehearsal Dinner - So goes tradition

Wedding traditions being what they are, it is typically the groom and the groom's family that plan and pay for the rehearsal dinner. That tradition, of course, originates from the concept that the bride's father was paying for the wedding reception itself, the next day. Nowadays, there's a lot more flexibility, with the bride likely wanting to have a say in what the tone and style of the rehearsal dinner will be. In terms of paying for the dinner, however, to be clear - this is a dinner that is being hosted for the benefit of an intimate group of guests. We suggest that you budget around $500 (Yes, really. It adds up).

When the rehearsal dinner takes place, and for how long

As the name suggests, the rehearsal dinner naturally takes place soon after the wedding rehearsal itself, and that probably means the night before the wedding itself. Keep in mind that the rehearsal dinner doesn't have to go on for hours - it's fine to wrap things up fairly quickly after everyone has finished eating. Everyone will be tired, and you and the bride should get a good night sleep, even if it's guaranteed to be a bit crappy.

Who gets invited to the rehearsal dinner?

So if the groom and bride are paying for the guests, who gets an invite, and how many people are invited? The rehearsal dinner should be hosted for your parents, your bride's parents, the wedding party, the officiant and grandparents and other VIPs. You might also consider inviting guests that have made extraordinary effort to make it to your wedding; those that have travelled a long way to get there. Finally, each of the members of the wedding party should be allowed to bring their significant other. You'll also need to consider babysitting, if needed, or accomodate their children at the rehearsal dinner. Plan on hosting around 20 people. Of course, who ultimately attends is up to you.

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Why don't people just have a cook-out or a dinner at a friend's house or their house for the rehearsal dinner, instead of paying thousands of dollars at a swanky restaurant? Don't make the rehearsal dinner such a big deal. Think outside of the box. People should also throw "The Book" away and just do something they can afford - and often times those outside the box ideas are the most fun.
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Your Comments REHEARSAL DINNER- My son asked if I would lend a hand with the dinner. I said yes and gave him a limit. A few weeks later the number of people grew from 18 to 25 and then to 30. I was still able to fine a place to ser a 3 course dinner for 14.95ea. Yesterday the number jumped to 60, and it was his birthady. Needless to say he tried to pull a fast one and play the only son card. My response was "wakeup bud" you were given a budget and the tree in the back yard does not produce dollars. When he calls again, he will recieve the same new. The budget has not and will not change, consider this the first lesson for the foundation of your marriage. Sounds hard, but it's a fact of life, one must not stretch beyond the bounderies these days.
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My future daughter-in-law is inviting 75 of the 100 wedding guests to the rehearsal dinner for a sit down meal with alcohol at a very expensive restaurant at a cost of $75 per person - that's 5625!!! She has not asked what our budget is, nor if it's a problem to spend that much money. It's her day and that it! When we discussed cost early in the planning process she had a major blow up so we are biting our tongues, as suggested. We will not be giving them a wedding gift, just the rehearsal dinner. Originally, we wanted to pay for their honeymoon, but not we cannot afford to do that. And when we wanted to invite 4 of our friends to the wedding - we were told that there wasn't room for these lifelong friends. They'll probably spend $25,000 - $30,000 on this wedding - all while living in an apartment with no money for a down payment on a home.
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Fri, Jan.21st 2011
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We had 80 people attend an engagement party for our son and his bride. I was told there would be 50-55 people. I had 10 people from my side and the rest came from the brides side. I didn't mind since all had a great time, though we had to get more food. My son than asked us to pay for the Honeymoon. Now I was asked to pay for the Rehearsal dinner and the videographer. I'm retired and on social sec. and with the brides list including everyone coming from out of town and a huge bridal party, how much responsibility does the grooms parents have. I still have a daughter to plan a wedding for.
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Tue, Sep.7th 2010
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Don't understand some folks and their thinking. So my husband and I were not part of my niece's wedding party, nor was another sister and her family, yet we were all invited to attend the rehearsal dinner. Our brother and his 2 young adult children were NOT included. I felt this was a slap in the face to them. MOB says "THE BOOK" says it isn't necessarily a family affair, yet all other family members for both sides were there. I felt sad for my brother. Throw away the dang book and do the right thing people.
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Wed, May.26th 2010
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It's sad to hear all the problems that weddings cause - they are supposed to be a joyous time. My son is getting married this July and he is paying for everything with our help. This bothered me at first that her parents weren't helping at all but I reminded myself that my husband and I are helping financially because we can and we want to make this a happy time to remember. Our son is very responsible and has kept everything on track. He and his fiance are staying within the budget set and I try not to be too pushy! The rehearsal dinner has been completely ours to plan and we're having a great time with it. We're at 40 people and counting because we have choosen to invite out of town relatives and extended that to my sons future inlaws as well. So my advice is - find joy wherever you can and leave all the bitterness and sadness behind. Good luck!
Jennifer
Fri, May.21st 2010
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I am a bride to be and wanted a small rehearsal dinner with only our parents, the wedding party, minister and my grandparents. My future MIL now wants to invite all her family that is coming in from OOT. I know that it is the groom's family who plans the rehearsal dinner, but I don't want all those people there. My FMIL insists that since all those people are staying with them that they should come. Meanwhile, my family is local and since they aren't coming from out of town are not allowed to be there :( Any suggestions?
Monster IN Law
Sun, May.16th 2010
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My son and his fiance are getting married Aug 7 and just informed me yesterday, although I knew through family! They have not included me in any of their planning. I tried to have a baby shower for her (with our side of the family) and she wanted to invite her side of the family too and have it in their hometown, which is an hour away from us. Needless to say, I did not give this ungrateful spoiled self centered B*^$* a baby shower. Then, I tried to have a first bday party, again for our side of the family, and again, she wanted to just have one big party with her family as well! I purchased bday deco and tableware, of her choosing, for the extravaganza, but they did not use anything I had purchased, even though she had picked everything out! Needless to say I am very hurt about the past and now that they are getting married you really like to be a part of the celebration. I have offered suggestions just to be shot down again. Her Mom tried to get them to go out of state to get married, but my husband put his foot down and told my son that if he was a man he would want his family to be there to share this special time. We don't have the kind of money her family has and would not be able to afford to go to FL for a 20 min ceremony! Now they are planning this huge event and I'm sure they are going to want us to help financially. I am tired of trying to please them, and find myself consuming all my energy thinking about this. Plus, unfortunately I don't think it will be a lasting marriage.
confused
Thu, Apr.22nd 2010
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I was told on the day of the rehearsal dinner that my husband and I were not included. We are the parents of the bride. I thought both sets of parents were supposed to be invited. I am hurt and confused. My husband and I have not been included in anything. The grooms parents are paying for the reception because they have so many relatives they said it would not be fair to us. My daughter and her fiance are paying for the rehearsal dinner even though we offered, is this the way it is supposed to be ?
Thrifty Planner
Fri, Feb.19th 2010
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The wedding party and their 'significant others' (read that husband. wife, boyfriend, girlfriend) should be invited. The only children in attendance (unless arrangements are made PRIOR TO THE EVENT) are the members of the wedding party. It should be in a comfortable setting, NOT formal, just to relax, and should not go too late, The tradition of inviting out-of town guests to the rehearsal dinner is slightly outdated. After all, you will be entertaining them at the reception, RIGHT? In this economy, one should consider who's paying for the wedding, and realize that there are regular bills AFTER the big day. DON"T BE SELFISH!!! The money you save by economizing on the ONE BIG DAY could easily go to the downpayment on a house - a much more lasting symbol of the love you share than pictures and moldy cake. I do not suggest going cheap; just plan well and keep something in reserve for later.
Marie
Mon, Jan.25th 2010
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I am a bride and I have an opposite problem to what a lot of you mother's of the groom have. My family is not necessarily rich, but can afford to host a nice wedding. My FI's family, is not very well off, they are divorced, and his father and step-mother are EXTREMELY cheap, and won't pay for a rehearsal dinner, and his mother simply can't afford one. My parents say that it's not their responsibility since they are paying for all other expenses for the wedding and won't do it either. I guess we are going to go without one altogether. I have tried to involve my groom's family, but my future father in-law will only respond to e-mails with one line sentences that ignore a lot of the questions I am asking him, and does not pick up the phone when I call. They have behaved very poorly when it comes to money in the past and I don't want there to be issues between them and my parents. I wish they showed more of an interest in the planning, but I am concerned that they will skip the rehearsal altogether (even though their daughter is standing) to get out of any obligations to pay for a rehearsal dinner. It's not like I'm asking for a lot, maybe 20 people (the bridal party, my mother and father, groomsmen, our pastor and his wife) and something casual. Oh well I guess this is how these things goes!
horrified mother
Wed, Jan.20th 2010
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Whatever happened to sitting down together, parents of the bride and groom, and planning the wedding together? My son's fiance's mother planned the whole wedding, her dream wedding, for the bride and groom, and then assigned what all of us are paying, without any regards to anyone's budget except her own. She told me that she would be inviting all the out of town guests on her side of the family, 60 people, to the rehearsal dinner. She never even discussed the rehersal dinner with me or what my budget was for the dinner and she just expects me to accomodate her. The total guest count for the wedding is only 130 people and she says I will be hosting 100 people for the rehearsal dinner. What do I do?
upset mother of groom
Wed, Jan.20th 2010
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My soon is getting married in six months. The bride's mother planned the entire wedding on her own and then told us that we would be hosting a rehearsal dinner with 97 people maximum attending because all of her out of town relatives had to be invited. She even took the liberty of calling a local restaurant to get me a price per person on dinner for everyone(23.00 per person), $2000.00 without any drinks or cocktails included. I told her that 97 people at a rehearsal dinner was ridiculous and she insists that it is proper etiquette to invite all out of town guests. I don't want to disappoint my son and fiance but this is just out of control and way off my budget. What do I do?
Jessica
Tue, Jan.19th 2010
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Okay... So I am the bride, and my fiance and I are paying pretty much for everything that has to do with the wedding. For the rehersal dinner we only wanted to invite the wedding party and all of the out of town guests (which are spending a tremendous amount of money to attend the wedding - so its only right to invite them). The wedding party consist of my parents, my grandparents, his parents, our bestman and maid of honor. So anyways we just received a nasty text message from his sister because his sisters are not invited. I really dont see why I need to invite everyone, especially since we are the ones that are paying for it. Am I wrong? why am I feeling like I am the bad guy here, I am supposed to be happy for getting married not guilty.
Happy MOG
Tue, Jan.19th 2010
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Great Article! In reading these comments I must say I am blessed that my son is marrying a wonderful girl with a wonderful family. They have allowed us to make all of the plans, which I do pass by my future daughter-in-law. I'm so looking forward to the dinner :)
Horrified!
Sun, Jan.10th 2010
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My son and future daughter-in-law want ALL CONTROL of the rehearsal dinner and the wedding. Never mind her parents are divorced and can't contribute much in the way of finance. Never mind the couple are young and just getting out of school with little to contribute to the wedding either. We (the grooms parents) are expected to finance the rehearsal dinner and the wedding. We have been told where this will take place as well and who will be invited. The entire situation is out of control!
HANNAH
Fri, Jan.8th 2010
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I AM NOT WITH MU SONS FATHER AND ADORE THE WOMAN AND HER FAMILY HE IS MARRYING. I NEED HELP WITH A MOM-TO-SON-SPEECH, FUNNY,GENTLE,AND LOVING
auntie
Wed, Oct.21st 2009
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My neice is getting married Saturday. My gift to her is all the docorations for the reception IE: centerpieces, chaircovers, sashes, table decor, candles etc, and all of the flowers for the wedding. I wasn't invited to the rehersal dinner, let alone my mother who is her only living grandparent!
Sun, Sep.27th 2009
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I'm the mother of the groom, and appreciate the guidance this site has provided. My husband and I agreed to set a budget for our son's wedding. We've invited members of the wedding party (not signifiant others) along with the Bride's mother to the rehearsal dinner. My son and future daughter-in-law understand and appreciate that these are tough economic times - both have done an amazing job themselves to scale back on the expense. If anyone feels we are not doing enough, that's their issue. Most important thing to focus on is the love of these two individuals and celebrating their marriage.
Donna
Mon, Sep.21st 2009
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My step son and soon to be daughter-in-law announced that they would like to have a rehearsal dinner for 80 people. There are around 175 people invited to the wedding. It was their idea to have a picnic which we started planning. They have now decided that would be tacky and want to do something else. I am undecided what to do. It will cost us around $2000 for the 80 person event. To take this number of people to a restaurant would be doulbe that amount. Any suggestions. (They insist that all of the out of town guests attend)
Motherof the groom
Sat, Aug.22nd 2009
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Haha...$500 and twenty people??? Wish I was paying for that one!!!! How about several grand and finding out you are entertaining/feeding almost HALF of the people invited to the wedding. Meanwhile, the Bride and Groom still don't have a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out of. They could have had a house with a yard for my GRANDCHILD to play in :(
Tony Nuccio
Sat, Aug.15th 2009
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My brother has chosen to get married out-of-state (FLorida) where I live. I am the best man and would like to host the rehearsal dinner. The majority of the guests are from out-of-state. Who should be invited?
Lynn
Thu, Jul.23rd 2009
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Advise sought: As mother of the groom I was appalled to receive an email from my sister to inform me, my future daughter-in-law and parents had booked a resturant for the rehearsal dinner without consulting me. Not sure if this bothered me the most or the fact that they choose the resturant where my family had recently celebrated my father's birthday just weeks before his death. I did completely freak out and refused to go to the rehearsal dinner. I've also said I would not pay for the dinner if the venue was not changed. Am I being unreasonable?
Dolly
Mon, Jul.20th 2009
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I paid for my wedding and we had an after rehearsal party with "the cake" and all. We invited loads of people to it and had it right at the church. The next day we married and were free to leave for our honeymoon. Why is there so much of the parents have to do this or that. We raised them-I never expected my parents to pay- they didn't have the money.
Mary Ann
Sat, Jun.27th 2009
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Your Comments A rehearsal dinner can be expensive. Wish I had a book on what was proper ettiguette and what was not. But I had no control of where , when how who was invited and what was to be done. Only that I had to pay for it and had to pay for it because that is what I should have planned for in my life. I am on disability and had just paid for a funeral losing my son. I was disappointed that my only living son did not allow me to have a say in what I was paying for. In fact they invited several children to the party and they did not eat their food which I paid a very hefty price tag for. I had no idea that children were coming. I had total surprises. In fact the very people who I asked my son to invite were not included but at the last minute he was able to get them included. Then they celebrated someone in the other families birthday at the event, which is why all the children were there. I was very hurt. I know these things should be ironed out somehow beforehand but isn't the person who pays the bill suppossed to plan this and not the couple. Shouldn't we have some say in it since it is our gift and our money. And shouldn't it not cost a couple thousand dollars when you have just lost a child and had to pay for a funeral? I think brides today are different than yesteryear. They want something very elegant. I had my own rehearsal dinner at a brother in laws house and we invited a lot of people. Cost was extremely minimal and we paid for it because my in laws could not afford it. I am sorry that things happen in weddings the way they do because when I expressed my disappointment I think my new in laws or not happy with my comment about my being unhappy about paying for someones birthday party with their family. I felt sad from just losing a child. Plus, I wanted to be close to my only living son but we were at odds because he wanted to let his future wife have her happy moment. Her happy moment cost me a lot of money and it also caused a rift between us which I wish was not there. I want to have a close relationship with my son, his wife, his children and his family. I really like them all. I just wish that the event could have been handled differently so no one could have felt like they do now. Wish we could have just had something simple in which I could have invited people not able to be invited to the wedding. What is the protocol for these things. I requested something simple in a nice place which I was able to have for no fee at all. They could have invited anyone they wanted. I wanted it catered and still with a sit down dinner it would have been less expensive for me. Even allowing the event to take place the way they wanted still created feelings which were mixed. Wish it could have happened a different way because I would like the family to be close. I really like the in laws and my daughter in law. But this stupid one event has caused her to feel odd toward me, because I expressed some hurt about paying such a high price for something like that. Shouldn't I have had some input when paying. No matter what I did the way they wanted it didn't do me any good because I think they were still upset with me.
Humbug
Sun, Jun.21st 2009
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It seems to me the original tradition was to reward the participants in the wedding for their support and participation, not to have a pre-wedding party for everyone invited to the wedding. I would think the rehersal dinner should be the night of the rehersal and include only the participants. It might be appropriate to include the participant's significant other if the wedding isn't too large. If you invite 40 to 50 people to the rehersal dinner at a simple restaurant the bill will be $1200 to $1500 not $500.
Boo Hoo Lou
Wed, Jun.10th 2009
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Your Comments Trivia questions: Name the last team to beat the wings for the cup?
Boo Hoo Lou
Wed, Jun.10th 2009
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Your Comments The dead wings won't win anyway so you won't have to cry like a baby twice in one weekend!
DAA
Wed, Jun.10th 2009
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Your Comments So sad to see Carl miss GAME 7 of the Stanley Cup FINALS when the famed Detroit Red Wings will kick the butt of the "Peng-goo-ins" in DETROIT. So sorry to hear you will miss the game Carl however, Etiquette is Etiquette. By the way, Dave T. says he is so sorry to see this as well. Have a great day Carl
djlct
Wed, Jun.3rd 2009
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brides parents are hosting rehearsal dinner at their home for family only. Groom's family would like to host something for out of state guests- wedding in WA; gooom and close friends mosly east coast. Best way to do this?
Sandra
Mon, Jun.1st 2009
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Your Comments Well, I am the mother of the Bride and the Maid of Honor. The groom's mother did not include us in the rehearsal dinner planning. She has planned a party at her house for all the out of town guests and her home is 2 l/2 hours from my home. We can't have the rehearsal before the rehearsal dinner because of her choosing her home so far away and on top of that the wedding is at 10:00 the next morning. I will need to leave with the Bride to the venue at 6:00 in the morning in order to drive the hour and get the bride and myself ready for the ceremony. I think the Groom's mother was inconsiderate to plan it like this. She was asked to change it and threatened that if we didn't come she was not coming to the wedding. At that point I suggested my daughter call off the wedding.
Jenna
Mon, Apr.13th 2009
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The significant others, i.e. husbands/wives, girlfriends/boyfriends, fiances, etc.. should be invited. Since our wedding party consists of mostly family, we are opening our rehearsal dinner up to the children of the wedding party, which is only 2 extra children, since the other 2 are already in the wedding party. Don't be afraid to try doing something simple, we are hosting our own rehearsal dinner at home. We are setting up tables in our garage and backyard - we'll be having a sub tray, pizza, and salads - just something simple. Good luck!
anon
Tue, Mar.3rd 2009
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At the last count the grooms dinner is up to 75 people! We could not afford to have it at the wedding site on the rehearsal night so we are having it one night before. I am getting grief about having it at the house and not on the night of the rehearsal... This was originally agreed to but now the bride is balking. Is there anyone else out there that has had the grooms dinner the day before the rehearsal? How did it turn out?
Annie
Fri, Jan.9th 2009
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Your Comments I think the idea of inviting everyone who has come from out of town to be a bit excessive. If you're going to invite everyone for the rehearsal, why not just have the wedding that night and get it over with all at one time. You could save alot of money that way. For some weddings, everyone is coming from out of town.
Palmella
Fri, Jan.9th 2009
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I totally agree- the wedding rehearsal dinner must be taken as an opportunity to relax with friends and family. There should be entertainment and fun. I recently attended the wedding rehearsal of my niece that was so wonderful. They had put up a big-screen tv and played a musical show made with pictures of the couple's dating days. It was perfectly choreographed to music and because it was professionally made, the results were awesome! It was so romantic and touching to watch their love story on the screen. Later, they presented a copy of the DVD to every guest as a souvenir to take home. They got the show custom-made for them by Smiling Snaps and I had never seen anything like that before.
Tim
Mon, Dec.22nd 2008
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Your Comments Rehearsal Dinner:: When you say significant others, does that mean husbands and wives. Or do boyfriends and girlfriends get invited also?
Tim
Mon, Dec.22nd 2008
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Your Comments Should small children be invited to the rehearsal dinner?
Grooms Dinner to honor groom?
Mon, Sep.1st 2008
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Your Comments: Is the groom's dinner meant to be a dinner in honor of the groom? For our groom's dinner the mother of the groom sent out formal invitations that read "Grooms Dinner in honor of James Smith" on the front and then on the inside had the location, time and date and toward the bottom "on the eve of the marriage between Jane Brown and James Smith. Does anyone else find this to be in poor taste? She insists that this is proper invitation etiquette. The tables at the restaurant were set up placing the bride and groom at a table for 2 on the outer edge of the room. Maid of honor with spouse and 1 guest at a table for 4, The best man and spouse at yet another table for 2. All of the other guests were by family group. The mother of the groom sat at the center table set for 8 with her daughter's family (sister of groom). We thought it was odd that she hadn't considered a table for the bridal party to sit together. Or that she chose to sit with her daughter than to share a table with the bride's family whom she had never met. (The bride's family had come to town months earlier and invited her to dinner but she refused because she needed to bake pies for Thanksgiving the following week. Thankfully, the best man contacted the waitress to set a table up near the group to sit the bridal party together. Does anyone have any comments?
Groom Groove
Thu, Jul.24th 2008
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Cyndie - Sandy, That's on the high end for a rehearsal dinner, but not over the top. Everyone in the wedding party, plus significant other, parents, siblings, kids...it all ads up. Just wait til more people show up than expected at the wedding reception itself!
Cyndie
Thu, Jul.24th 2008
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Your Comments - We had 40 at the rehearsal dinner. It was limited to wedding party and their dates, minister, parents, grandparents and husband's brother and sister-in-law, along with their son-in-law and daugther (these three came and help up decorate, prepare food and cleaned up while I attended to my guests - therefore we invited them to eat). The other brother and his wife were upset that they were not invited. My husband tried to explain and they just refused to accept why. The other brother even tried to make a scene during the receiving line - my telling our sone he was sorry he couldn't be at the rehearsal celebration - they just refused to accept what we told them - the mother and father of the bride did not ask other aunts and uncles to attend this dinner. In fact the only was the the minister, who was the bride's uncle.
Sandy
Thu, Jul.24th 2008
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Your Comments My "yet to be" duaghter-in-law advised that the rehearsal dinner will be 37 or so people. Granted, large wedding party and some special guest - but 37 people! Do you think that is a bit much. I found your article very helpful in guiding me to the making the right decision. Many, many, thanks!

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