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[Page 1 of 1] Grooms now have a diamond engagement ring calculator. Courtesy of GroomGroove.com, they can enter their salary information and with a click of a button, figure out how much DeBeers wishes they would spend on their bride's diamond engagement ring! Where did the two months of salary idea come from?
From our research, GroomGroove.com understands that DeBeers wanted to bring diamonds to the masses, rather than have them be for a select few. Accordingly, the price of diamonds was set at approximately two months of salary, which is somewhat tied to inflation. Diamonds, just like your marriage, are an investment, and have been an investment device for several thousand years. Hard, durable and used to mine for other minerals, diamonds are generally quite rare (although they are not the rarest of gemstones). This, coupled with cartelization by the producers and resellers, keeps diamond prices very high. As a result, it will cost a groom at least $1000 to purchase a diamond of decent cut, clarity, color and carat. Of course, a $1000 diamond engagement ring will likely be lacking in two or three of the four C's. Accordingly, a groom is likely to spend at least $2,500 on his bride's engagement ring. So just how much is two months salary? While there is no real answer, we believe two months' salary refers to your gross salary, and not your net salary. (ie. the amount of money you make before taxes and deductions). Here are some sample salaries and diamond engagement ring cost equivalents: If you earn... $30,000: tradition states you're on the hook for a $5,000 diamond engagement ring. $50,000: rampant advertising suggests you buy a $8,333 rock. $80,000: say goodbye to $14,167 on that piece of ice. $100,000: pray that for $16,667 she sticks around for a long time to come. And... If you earn $100 billion dollars, or the approximate Gross Domestic Product of New Zealand, you're looking at dropping $16 billion dollars. On the bright side, however, you should be able to get a good quality cut, carat, color, clarity and cardiac arrest at that price! [Page 1 of 1]------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
lala
Me and my then fiance (now we're married) went ring shopping together as he wanted me to pick the ring I really wanted. I chose the setting then tried on other settings with various diamond sizes. I have to say that the bigger diamonds looked fake and huge on my size 5 finger.I picked a 0.52 carat F VS1 GIA certified diamond set on a micro-pave gold setting. So quite a small but dainty ring. Overall he paid less than $5000. According to the calculator he should have paid over $25000!! No way I would have accepted that. I want to keep my ring and my finger!! I already think that $5k for a ring is huge!! On top of that where we're from France it's not that important to have an engagement ring, I only got one because he wanted me to get something and I can't say no to a nice (and quite sparkly present)!
Nicki
You're kidding me right. He spent $150 on my ring, and I love it... Unique... been together 3 years.... Only problem I have to get it resized... my finger hurts...
And our wedding budget is about 5k... maybe... and I find that EXTREMELY high...
I've never been a princess or gave a shit about that look.
My dress is $250.00 very simple and beautiful...
The problem is most girls (I'm guessing) are daddy's girls and if daddy's got the money, she'll be a princess on her wedding day...
I can't expect ANY ONE to help me through college (debt up to my ass to get the job I want), I can't expect a 20k (average cost of a wedding) wedding. Just not worth my time....
Didn't DREAM of my wedding all my life like most girls,
when he asked I couldnt have ask for more of a surprise... and thats the first time I started looking at wedding crap, and twitching at the amount some people will pay for a 1 day event,
I have a list of other things I can spend 20k on...College, his college, our house....damn near anything but a freaking wedding...
If you got to make it a choice, an expensive wedding lasting one day or a nice house and a debt being less harsh...
Please dont spend 20k on any kind of one day event, it matters whos there, and the happiness you feel...
if it takes 20k for happiness, you both better have damn good jobs...
Sean
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Annonymous
Okay ... I am quite sure songs like "Diamonds are a girls best friend is for a reason". Also Its easy for the girls up above who already got 15K plus rings to say ... "i would rather sentimental value blah blah". If you dont know what type of ring or how much to spend dont be with the person, shouldn't you sort of know this info by now. I mean common modern age society these days couples know whether or not to buy 1% or 2% milk, which brand of toilet paper, if they prefer paste to gel toothpaste and so fourth. If it has never once been expressed or simply stated what type of ring they want ... best solution DONT BUY ONE. Clearly they dont have it on their mind. Lets also give breaks to those ladies that DO LIKE big rocks. Sure they are unpractical, less modest and I suppose less traditional BUT HEY DIAMONDS ARE A GIRLS BEST FRIEND BABY and I think girls are allowed to have or want a sparkly fantasy. Especially if their male friend can afford it. Who doesn't want to feel like a princess? Besides the women who dont obviously make it clear from the beginning but dont assume most women feel that way because alot of women who already have the rock ....prefer the money saver. Also how suave are you going to feel when your fiance is constantly stopped and asked to see that eye stopper? The vanity goes both ways.
Jenn
I'm not really into jewelry or diamonds. I think the industry is a bunch of crock, haha. BUT that's just me. I wouldn't want to get a really expensive ring, I'd much rather prefer a used or vintage one. It really depends on your girlfriend. If you know she loves diamonds, go for the most expensive you can afford. Bust your butt off at work to make that extra money so you can buy her something that will make her happy. It's not a bad thing to want a beautiful ring to show off. It's just the way our society has influenced us. It's a tradition. It doesn't make the girl a gold digger or anything. Just find out what your girlfriend's preference is. And even if she says "ohhh, don't spend too much," do spend more than expected. It'll make her happy. And that's all that matters.
OC
my boyfriend asked me if I wanted to choose my ring, but I told him that I wanted him to choose it for me. I also told him that I think it is insane to spend more than $5k on the engagement ring. What I got? A Tacori matching set for $25k. I wasn't very happy that he spent that much money, but I have to admit that the rings are unbelievable beautiful with flawless diamonds and he said that he just wanted to express how much he loves me. Who can say anything to that???
I say to the guys that they should spend whatever they feel like, regardless calculators and all that stuff. If the girl really loves you she would be happy with an onion ring for your engagement :) the question is - will you be feeling good by giving her an onion ring??
Kazi
I love jewelry. I love diamonds, but in times like these I would be extremely upset if my boyfriend spent a lot of money on a ring. Instead of a diamond we plan to buy a home together this summer and then start wedding plans. According to the 2 month rule he would be spending over ten grand. That money would cover closing costs and a new sofa! MEN- communication is key, what are her plans? Do you own a home, townhouse, condo? Can you talk to her family or friends? If she is a romantic that wants a surprise ring she might love the idea of a vintage (aka used) ring. BUT if you own a home and spend a lot of money on yourself and your own hobbies, you better get her something. I am GIA certified in diamond grading. When I get my own diamond I want it to be something that I really love. I want it to be something that we do together! Even at the prices I can get a diamond, it will still be expensive and require planning. He comes from a very traditional household and it does upset him that I will not have a big diamond to show all of his family and friends. Having extra money at this point to buy a house the proper way (20% down) and still be able to have friends over for bbq's and be able to have money for a wedding, that is what I care about and what I consider to be generous and noble husband behavior. For him to drop a bunch of money on something without telling me would be upsetting, even if the item is for me. As we share expenses it is not just his money that he is spending it is ours.
Bride2Be
I love my fiancee. He had an excel spreadsheet w/ 3 rings that he wanted to get me. But he wasn't sure if I would like what he had chosen. So he decided to have me pick out my own ring. The timing of his proposal went coincided w/ a trip home to visit his family in Asia. My fiancee and I went ring shopping at the most reputable jewelry store in his home town. The 1.5 princess-cut diamond ring w/ .5 ct paved baguettes was exquisite! When we got back to the States, my jeweler appraised my ring to be 14K, when my fiancee only paid $7,000. My jeweler said that my main diamond alone was nearly flawless and would cost $12,000 retail. And as jewler, it would STILL cost him *wholesale*, $8K to buy a 1.5 princess cut. So our jeweler was really shocked at how much it cost us overseas. So go abroad! It's worth it. Our air fare was $1200/person. Just make sure that is is IGI certified. (Int'l Gemological Institute).
Stasia
Between me & my fiancee we make about $90k a year. If he every thought of buying me a ring a little over $7k which is what your estimate gave us for his salary it would kill him. That calculator is ridiculous & let me tell you in this day & age we couldn't even get credit high enough to get a decent ring with our salaries!!!! So needless to say he got me a $4,800 ring which was on sale for $3,500(it was around valentines day)& he paid for it once a week at the jewelers til' it was paid off. Got it last week & it's absolutely stunning & way better than alot that I have seen. Guys use your own judgement, don't be lazy, go out there & look you will find you don't have to pay alot for a gorgeous ring. Your best bet is to go to the small family run jewelers. More carots! nicer settings! & way cheaper than a Lux,Bond & Greene or Kay Jewelers!
Nate R
Your Comments My gf is an orthodonist and she owns 2 pratices and does very well for her self. I work very hard for what i have and but i make a quater of what she make...how do you what to buy and how much to spend...We love each other so much and its unconditional but i know whatever i would buy her she will love but what should i do...so if anyone could help me out here it would be greatly app.
richman
i have question .my problem its .how musch ring diamond 17.50 carat d vvs1thanks
Cass
The girls that are saying that they don't care about the size of the diamond are the ones that get the small stuff...and their lying whether they admit it or not.
Good luck
I love how everyone on here either makes 150k plus or has a partner who does. What a joke. This is why the economy is where it is because of people like you. You want to believe so bad that you are rich and make all of this money, when in reality you are in default and will be selling your ring on ebay for half of what it is worth (this is assuming your proclaimed ring is even legit).
Kelly
this calculator says my boy has to drop 15,000 on a ring! I want a nice ring, but doesnt that seem a bit crazy?
Tony
If it matters to her, spend the money. If it doesn't, don't. But be aware - if she's the kind of girl who swallows the marketing of diamond cartels, then...well, maybe she's the kind of girl for you. But she wouldn't be the girl for me, no sirree.
Mare
Oh, please, don't buy into any "calculated" number of how much to spend on ANYTHING to do with your wedding. Look at your budget and take it from there. I'm so proud to be wearing my mother's rings. They are modest and I have a diamond, yes, but frankly, if I didn't have my mom's rings, I'd probably simply go for a matching band with my fiance. If a woman wants a diamond and demands a certain amount dollar amount be attached to it, I'd question her commitment to the relationship.
JM
And oh... We just bought her ring. It's totally idiosyncratic, and quirky, and beautiful, and unique...just like her. It cost 2.5 grand. The total diamond weight is just over a carat. The band is thick and awesome, almost like a wedding band, and the center diamond is almost embedded...not on a prong setting. It took intense, exhaustive searching to find the exact right thing, and if had had cost $250, it would've still been okay because she loves it...I love it...and we worked hard to find it together. I make a pretty healthy living, but with the money I DIDN'T spend, we'll have a great honeymoon and a beautifully remodeled kitchen. The idea that love and money have anything to do with one another is broken and dysfunctional. And my fiancee would happily take her chunky, unique engagement ring and punch "my opinion" in the face. To repeat...she's a dick. Good luck with your divorce.
JM
From Below:
"I hate the size of my ring. It's tiny in comparison to my size 9 fingers. I even get comments from people saying how small it is. It is .8 of a carat. He spent around $5k and earns around $150k a year. At first I loved the ring but now I realise how cheap he wasYour Comments"
You're a dick.
XX
"i believe that the ring says how much im worth to my guy."
Wow. Grow up.
"an engagement ring is something to be proud of, something to show your family and friends, something that says YOUR WORTH something to your guy. i want to be shown that im worth THAT MUCH to my guy when he pops the question every girl dreams about from day one."
Your family and friends should be able to tell the quality and strength of your relationship by your interactions with and gestures toward each other. Maybe even by the thought that went into the proposal. Your comment suggests that the richer the man, the more he is capable of loving you... truly ridiculous! Have a happy marriage!
Hope your guy doesn't lose his job so that he can keep proving his love to you!
Derek
This might be the most inaccurate website ever, o, maybe because its an advertisement site for other companies such as diamond jewelers. Lol, spend what you want to spend... 30,000 is about 1,000. 200,000 a year should only spend 3-5k, seriously, watch Blood Diamond. LOL
jack.
so i read all of the comments. and some even made me tear up. i dont know if its because its almost my time of the month or what but im feeling ultra sensitive. im young sure, but when it comes to the engagement ring, it means a lot more than just those $$$$ signs. i believe that the ring says how much im worth to my guy. it means that he wants to take care of me, he wants to give me what ive always dreamed of. i dont care that guys on here say its stupid or its shallow because its really not. an engagement ring is something to be proud of, something to show your family and friends, something that says YOUR WORTH something to your guy. i want to be shown that im worth THAT MUCH to my guy when he pops the question every girl dreams about from day one.
Angela
I think it is inaccurate to relate the size of the ring that's on a woman's finger to the quality of the relationship they're in. My ex-boyfriend cheated on me, and feeling guilty about it, bought a beautiful ring and proposed to me prior to confessing about his affair. I would much rather have a faithful, loving man in my life and wear a smaller ring, than deal with a wealthy cheater who can afford to buy me a huge ring. Ladies, if you really want a larger ring, and you're with a good guy who can't afford the ring you want, why not chip in for it yourself? I am curious about the lady who is unhappy with the .8 carat ring she got that cost $5K. Did she purchase a $5K engagement present, like a nice watch, for her fiance? Did she offer to pay for half of her engagement ring, so that she could have a $10K ring instead? Did she let her fiance know what she had in mind prior to him purchasing the ring (e.g. 1.5 carat ring at the minimum). I make $150K per year as well, and think that the 2 month rule is ridiculous. If I had to purchase an equal engagement gift for a fiance, I couldn't imagine spending the $25,000 necessary according to that rule. Especially not considering that a lot of higher income earners may have other pressing financial concerns such as large educational debt, etc. Also, that calculator doesn't account for what's left over after taxes. The last time I checked, you can't deduct the cost of purchasing an engagement ring on your tax return. Sure, it is definitely important for a woman to love the ring that she has, but if loving the ring is simply a matter of looking at the price tag and comparing its size to someone else's ring, than I think we women need to reevaluate our priorities.
my opinion
I hate the size of my ring. It's tiny in comparison to my size 9 fingers. I even get comments from people saying how small it is. It is .8 of a carat. He spent around $5k and earns around $150k a year. At first I loved the ring but now I realise how cheap he was
Blake
I just have one commment. All you women that believe bigger rock = more love need to go see a shrink. Do you have any idea how shallow you sound? I'm not saying that guys should go buy a ring at wallmart, but for god sakes comments like that just show how truly materialistic and self-centered you are.
Darin
Look, you do have to spend a "reasonable" amount to get a nice diamond. Thats just how the market works. I would say around $5,000 will be just fine. Upwards of $10k is just plain stupid for a freakin ring (yes, even if you have the money to burn). Houses, Weddings, etc. cost a lot too. Half our society is brainwashed on the whole going broke for a diamond thing. That mentality is the main reason we are in this recession mess right now.
Non
The 2-months salary was made up by a company trying to increase their sales of diamonds. Watch "Blood Diamond", and these big diamond companies will make you sick. Anyhow, i don't think you should look at it as an investment, because you should never sell your wife's ring for the profit, NEVER! And if she leaves you, she's taking it with her. I think 1 months salary is better, but not necessary if money is tight. Obviously, the more you make, the more you have to spare, the guy making 30,000 shouldn't pay $5,000 unless he wants to take his bride to Denny's for their honeymoon. I've gotten my wife a diamond watch and diamond necklace, since, but that much for a ring is probably not something she cares about. Her ring is going to be priceless b'c it came from you, no one else will ever know, or care about its clarity or color, just keep it clean and shiney so she can flash it. Just don't dare go cheap :)
Kitty
YIKES! Just used the calculator and my bf would have to spend $7500!? I was feeling guilty in the first place when I heard the figure $2500 from my friend!! NO WAY would I want him spending almost 8k on a piece of jewelery. My tastes do run to the simple though, I just want a plain solitaire, silver... I certainly don't want something so large that looks like I could bludgeon a cat to death with it! Up yours, DeBeers! Also, I would want to buy Canadian anyway, or even better, lab-grown.
Frank
This is an interesting article and I really like the calculator widget. I have to agree that you have to look at the ring as an "investment". However, it doesn't mean that you have to overpay. You should also really take your time to look at the different types of rings there are out there. When I hear women talk about their ring on sites like this I can tell that it seems that they prefer "antique style engagement rings" as opposed to a plain ring with just a a big diamond. I see a commenter mentioned Simon G. That seems to be one of the most popular engagement ring designers as the ring I bought was Simon G as well. If you're looking for a good deal on quality designer engagement rings I highly recommend http://www.FirenzeJewels.com, they're located in the NY Diamond District. Our experience with them was great, they're truly a diamond in the rough.
Kris
Men should really put time and effort into looking for and buying an engagement ring. The cost of the ring should correlate with your finances. You should not go bankrupt buying a Diamond engagement ring, but if you have to sacrifice somethings to buy her something that she wants then why not. If you are able to buy thousand dollar flat screen TV's and entertainment centers to make you happy then you should be able to do the same for her. If you have the money then spend it.
Anon
If you don't want to buy used, as someone who just bought a diamond, I recommend buying from a reputable, responsible online dealer, such as Blue Nile, or several others. The online dealers prices were $1000-$2000 less than a local jewelry store was quoting me for the same 4Cs ratings, including good #s for thing beyond the 4Cs (fluorescence, table %, polish, symmetry, depth %).
For instance, a $7K+ diamond from a local jeweler was around $5500 online. A $6500 diamond from a local jeweler was $4500 online. A $5000 local diamond was $3500 online. Etc.
Yes, you have to find a legitimate, reputable online dealer, but doing so will save you a bundle.
The one big problem when buying used is knowing that what you are getting is legitimate and is what they say it is. So that's the tradeoff.
Jim
i was lucky enough to have a giant 1.5k stone handed down from my great great grandmother... I had the stone reset to my fiance style and added two 35 point pear shaped diamonds as side stones with a filagree heart and two 1 point full cuts on each side in the gallery... the grand total was only $1,900 dollars. i used the calculator and figured out that my suggested ring price should have been around $10,000... am i too cheap? The ring was apraised by an independant jeweler after it was made for a value of $20,590... I think I can thank my great great grandmother for her contribution, but i am afraid that I may have cheaped out....
Ally
I would rather have a husband who'll do chores for me than a big diamond ring. The price of a diamond doesn't equal the level of commitment. It's the little gestures that make a woman feel special. If you are in a loving relationship, why would you need to be in a bar by yourself showing off your engagement ring? After a while, the ring'll lose it's initial appeal anyway.
greg
I agree with Lisa. Try to find a previously owned ring or stone. You will save approximately 50% of retail. I recently picked up an estate ring that cost me less that 50% of what I would have paid retail. $4100 vs $8500 retail. The ring was new to me so whats the difference. Its not like its a used car.
Lisa
Ok guys listen up. I'm going to tell you how to get twice your money's worth when buying a diamond. Yes women love diamonds and they want something that they can show off; it's not our faults, it's the way society is and the Diamond industry has pushed it on us since we were babies.
Anyway, Diamonds are marked up an unbelievable amount when being sold new in retail stores. And all that money is going to fat cats in the jewelry and diamond industries. Save yourselves a whole lot of cash and buy a diamond used from a private seller. Some people don't like to think about their jewelry being used, but buy a used engagement ring and have the diamond reset. The diamond is what costs the most about an engagement ring and to buy a new setting would be a small expense compared to your savings over buying the entire ring at retail prices. It's not like diamonds go bad over time. You can find an amazing amount of good quality certified diamonds on craigslist.com and ebay.
You literally can buy diamonds at half the retail price when buying used.
I would much rather have a diamond that has been used and reset and be able to buy a house in the near future than to know that we will be paying it off for the next 10 years!!!
Besides, how do you know that retailers aren't selling you a diamond that hasn't already been around the block or two?!
T
I recently bought my fiance a decent sized ring (bigger than some smaller than others). She loved it. The funny thing is watching the reaction of others. Most women compared or awed. Some became ashamed of their own rings. It made me really thing about the sad state of our times. Sure it means a lot to the receiver, to have that big shiny rock to show off, and a lot to the giver to let his loved one know how much she means to him. But should it? Should the amount we spend be a sign of our commitment? It just seems awfully materialistic and shallow.
Ladies if the size, of the ring affects the way you feel about your partner, perhaps you need to re-examine your commitment to him. And gents if you feel your partner may not be happy with the amount you spend, maybe you should get to know her a little better.
Luis
I have been planning to buy my girlfriend an engagement ring. I love her and know this is the women I want to marry. I am 29 and this is the first women in my entire life that I have said I love you to. I knew absolutely nothing about Diamonds, Jewelry, and engagement rings. I didnt have the luxury to even consider buying those things growing up. I grew up in a poor household in a bad neighborhood. I paid my way through college and had no connections when I graduated. I started at the bottom and worked my way up and I am doing very well now. As I was growing up and in college I saw many women attracted to, and swept off there feet by the guys with money (including the good girls). A large number of those women are now single mothers. Many women always told me that when a guy spends a lot of money on them it shows he loves her. I always felt it was being loyal, not cheating, taking care of you when youre sick, protecting you, telling you how special and beautiful you are, and genuinely interested in your goals and dreams. You know important stuff like that. I am by no means cheap, I dont mind spending money. It just hurts a little to know that if I dont spend 2 months salary on the ring a woman will question how much you love her. From the guys side it feels like you have to buy her love (How much is something really worth if it can be bought, love is priceless). And if 2 months salary is the I love you number I will spend that much. The funny thing is that is how much I would have spent anyway. It just takes the joy and excitement out off getting the ring because my love will be in question if I dont. How would women feel if there love for us would be in question if they didnt buy us a nice watch worth 2 months of there salary.
Ryan
I dont know about the rest of you out there, but when your trying to save money for buying a house and furnishing it trying to come up with that 2 months salary for a ring. Just to damn much. I just got lucky that when I took my fiance to the store and told her to pick anyone she wanted i walked out with only spending 1500. Luckily shes only 4'11 and only 105 lbs so anything big and expensive just wouldnt look right on her. My advice is get her advice and find out what she says, cause in all honesty if she tells ya money and how much you spend is everything.( she just aint worth it ).
Kay
me and my husband got engaged around the same time as a few of my friends did. when i got my ring i was so proud of it until i seen the size if my friends rocks. my husband went to a pawn shop and bought my ring for $150. you can hardly see it it's so small, it's not even a solid stone it's a cluster. i love it more than anything and would have married him no matter what but an engagement ring is just as much a statement for a woman as it is a symbol of love. we girls what to show off that rock and to be honest we want to rub it in people's faces! I'm not saying go bankrupt, i'm saying spend a little more it makes a woman feel good that you love her that much that you would go somewhere besides a pawn shop and spend more than $150!
Alfy
Hi. Guys! I came across this website while I was trying to find an online calculator to check the price of a diamond ring and by curiosity I read your postings. Here is my story. I am married and I have a lovely kid of 7 months. I knew about the tradition of a engagement ring of 2 months salary. But a ring which has a story behind is priceless. When I was 9 years old my mother and I we went for a trip in Asia. She bought a diamond ring and she promised me to hold it for me for using it as engagement ring for my future wife. Back then I was not very excited until I met my wife and i propesed with that ring. Believe it or not it was the perfect fit. No one believes me that a ring that my mother bought 20 years ago will fit my wife finger....my wife always tell that story to her friends ...is not the ring or how much it cost ...is the fate and love.
lillull
If my fiancee bought me a ring that was worth two months' salary, I would be PISSED OFF!!! "thanks for pushing our plans for buying an apartement together back by at least a half year, honey!" WTF??? >:p
'Los
And, in case you're wondering, I would not be considered 'cheap' by anyone I know. I make a very good living, but I'm old-school: always pick up the tab, pay for all the bills at home, treat her like a queen. I want to give her the best, but seeing the way women act about this crap is so disheartning to men who mean well. It is such a stupid tradition. Give her a nice ring, by all means, just don't comit financial suicide doing so. If she does not love you without a huge, expensive ring, she never will, gentlemen.
'Los
This whole ring-giving thing would be much more acceptable if it was the woman giving the man an expensive item. MOST people have the same goals of buying a house, surrounding themselves with things that make life easier, starting and raising a family in comfort and security. All of this is delayed and greatly jeopardized by putting yourselves in a financial hole just because you feel obligated to live up to a tradition that was started by the DIAMOND SUPPLIERS THEMSELVES! Are women really that shallow? Someone please explain it to me, and don't give me that whole "she wants to show off to her friend..." crap, because I want to show off my 60-inch plasma tv to the guys, but I don't have one, and don't expect my better half to give me one when I propose to her. I know a couple that have spent a large chunk of money on an expensive ring because he had to show her how much he loved her. Now they live in a crappy apartment, spend very little time together because he works lke a madman to pay it off, rarely go out to play, and so on. Was it worth it? The ring better last forever, because the marriage is probably doomed from the strain of the situation even before they tie the knot. Dummies!
Moi
My friend just got a 14000 engagement ring, and to pay for it, her boyfriend works a SHITLOAD of overtime. Its insanity. I know it would be nice to get a ring that nice, but I wouldnt want my relationship to suffer for it. She basically cant do anything anymore. Its ridiculous. Shes my best friend and I hardly see her these days. Its sad. I miss her alot. He obviously cant afford it if he wont let her do anything anymore because they need to pay off the damn ring. A $5000 ring, or even a $500 ring would have been just fine. Damn that gorgeous ring!
Lou
My guy spent the two months salary, ie. $50K on my ring. I was astounded, i did not expect it at all and was absolutely blown away. I knew he loved me of course but this gesture said "i'm sticking around for the next 80 years not the next 8". I say splash out 2 months pay on an awsome ring, if you can afford it. Your girl will feel like a movie star and you will reap the rewards of such a kind gesture for many many years to come. Plus, when other guys approach me in a bar and see the ring they always back off! One guy said, "with a ring like that i'll not bother trying to compete with your husband"
Jenn
I am appauled that men think asking a woman to deal with them for the rest of their lives, put with their friends & family and whatever else they make us do while wearing a cheap ring. I gave birth to our daughter, maintain a great physique, work hard, am educated, and he thinks it's appropriate to buy me a $2,000 ring. I told him not to bother getting me a ring if I am not proud of it. He wants me to be his wife, and take a huge step while wearing a tiny rock? No way! MEN: listen up, this is a huge deal for ladies, splurge and buy a nice, shiny, sweet looking ring. It does matter and pays off. It is definately a dissapointment when you can buy tools and nights out with pals, but can't save up for a nice ring. If woman had to do the buying you can bet we would be pulling a second job and saving every dime to get something nice, why don't men do the same?
Caiti
Being the fiancee of a Marine, I know that sometimes, you just can't afford a 2500 dollar engagement ring. My ring cost 170 dollars, and it was clearance. Yes, sometimes I would like to have that big diamond on my finger, but the ring isn't what's important. Its the love and commitment it represents.
I wouldn't say go to Wal-Mart like we did, but I also don't recommend starving yourself in the process.
Caiti
Laura
Hi, fellows. Look, the bottom line is that the diamond you buy for your girl reflects YOU. As you all know, women LOVE things that sparkle and she will gaze at her engagement ring hundreds of times a day. It is truly the most important investment that you will make and she will wear the token of your shining love proudly! Big ring: Big Love.
John
7,500 bucks?! To hell with tradition, don't you know we're in a recession? I hope my fiance' doesn't find this page! Lol. Great site!
John
Great post, I looked around for where I can find the diamond ring that would make my fiance swoon and I had a specific budget in mind. And I found the exact ring I needed here http://www.idonowidont.com/newsite.php and I actually saved more money than I would have even at other jewelry sellers. I think the price is important but so is the design. I happened to find both at the same site.
Hank
I spent months sneaking out of work for an hour here and there and going to Diamond and Jewelry way in Manhattan. I looked at hundreds of diamonds to find the right proportions in a marquis cut - not thin like a table, nor fat like a football, but elegant. Then I designed a unique setting with a heart to let light underneath and some uncommon guard stones. I found a local craftsman to make it. All in, it was $8,000 15 years ago. It is a cherished heirloom. Like all things, you get out what you put in.... A caution on size. There is lot's written about "get the biggest you can afford" Don't. Size is relative. If she is petite with thin fingers a big diamond will loog garish. Find a woman salesperson with hands the size of your girlfriend's and have her try it on to get a sense of proportion.
Shaun
its kinda funny to read that people really cheap out on rings. i figure the people posting the threads about not buying a diamond or not spending a fair bit on a ring. either are single, or there marriage wont last, because if you can be so cheap and smug about not buying a ring then there are obviously other things you may cheap out on. remember when you were a kid and you just HAD to have something really cool and quite expensive, and your parents bought it for you anyways. same deal guys.she wants to show it off to her friends and family. guys if it was the other way around and the chicks had to buy us rings.. wouldnt you want something Sweet? anyways i'm 22 and have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years, were living together and both of us are ready to get engaged. thanks to the women for posting valuable information on here. i'll take that advice when i buy the ring to fullfil the fantasy.. cheers.
Jef
This is my 3rd marriage and my fiance's 2nd and the First bride my Mom has liked. I'm almost 40 and she's 37, so we're both positive marriage is what we want with each other as we have both been single for quite sometime. Anyway, my Mom approached me and asked if I would take her wedding ring to give to Laura. I was stunned. See, my Mom's ring is a combination of her's and my Grandmother's ring, which amongst other diamonds, there are 8 star of africa diamonds on there. It's gorgeous to say the least. But along with stunned, I was also on the fence. See, I didnt know how my fiance' would take it. You know, the whole "He's too cheap to buy my ring" kind of thing, which I'm not. I already had a ring picked out, just had not bought it yet. Well, after doing some Googling, I found that it is very acceptable to go with my Mom's offer, so I did, which in turn made my Mom very happy. Well, come to find out, Laura (and most women I'm told) found it to be of the highest compliment from my family to be honored with such an heirloom. Who knew?..lol
So, on this, financially anyway, I kind of lucked out. But believe me, within the next 53 days, I have not only a wedding, but a 200 mile move, a motorcycle to sell, then another move once I'm in her town, a job to find in her area and so on and so on.
So don't anyone think I'm skating on this one. But even with all that, it doesnt even phase me. Yeah, I know, I'm sappy here, but she's every bit worth it.
kate
get her the biggest ring you can afford she will always treasure it and wont be embarrassed to wear it
Groomster
Guys, be careful spending too much money on a diamond. You might get a BAD reputation.
Small Penis Ring: (Noun) A big rock given by a man to his future wife, trying to overcompensate for having a small penis.
Thea
Joe, have you ever seen a diamond in person? They're so mesmerizingly gorgeous!
I think antique and synthetic diamonds (lab-made actual diamonds, as opposed to diamond simulants like cubic z) are a good alternative to conflict diamonds pillaged from africa. However, synthetic diamonds are one of the many reasons I love modern science, cause nothing sparkles like a nice hunk of ice!!!
Chin
Jan: Cultured diamonds, more commonly known as lab-grown diamonds, are real diamonds, and have the same hardness and durability as any other diamond. You can see some here: http://d.neadiamonds.com/ Diamond simulants, like Diamond Nexus Labs, are imitations (CZ, moissanite) and aren't as durable.
Jan
Scratch my post about cultured diamonds. To me anyway, diamond simulants seemed like a great idea; however after hours of Googling, I learned that all diamond simulants are not made for everyday wear, and if worn as such, will cloud up/last only a year or two. Back to the drawing board for us ;-)
Jade
go to idonowidont. it has tons of great rings and amazing deals !!!
I also have one personally you might want to check out...
GIA certified - D color 1.71 Princess Cut - STUNNING !!!
http://www.idonowidont.com/171-Carat-PRINCESS-cut-Solitaire-in-White-Gold---,itemname,21150,id,auctiondetails
Jerod
Tom - $1000 Have you been to a diamond store recently? for a grand you can get pretty much nothing. You've got to spend at least $2500 to get something that's going to last a lifetime. Flatscreens cost more than a grand!!
tom
spend a 1000
Patty
When my husband and I became engaged we decided to spend our money on a beautiful stylish wedding and fun honeymoon instead of the ring. Back then, we had next to nothing and throwing a wedding for ourselves we were proud to invite our friends and family too was something of an accomplishment. So, I wore a plastic ring. At first it was kind of cool, hip you know modern architectural and all that. As our income increased, and we were also expecting our first child, we started going to jewelry stores together. We were ready to spend two months salary, and spent about a year looking. The best thing about waiting is not having to settle. I passed up many a diamond, many a tempting glitzy glamourous but not quite perfect setting. Finally I was lucky enough to be shown a Simon G setting that I instantly knew "thats my ring!" Now I have the ring I never dreamed I would have and I think back and giggle about my two years with a plastic ring. Men would stop me and ask me if it was my wedding ring, I said "yes" and they said "lucky him."
Jan
Wow - I just read the comments. To the guys who think rings are too expensive, at least talk with your soon-to-be fiance about her feelings. Depending where people are from, the ring can symbolize so much or relatively little. A couple I know just got engaged, and of course I did the girly thing of asking to see the ring, and then saying how gorgeous it was. Her fiance noticed I did this and said "Wow, I didn't know people would be checking out her ring, I might have to upgrade!" Um, ya. So I know guys and gals can have way different ideas, but the main thing is just to talk about it and be on the same page. You want to start off your engagement on a great note. One other thing, if you go by the cost-per-wear rule, a gorgeous ring is pennies a day. Especially since she'll see it even more than you, it is kind of worth it if she loves it also. Cheers!
Jan
I completely love cultured diamonds. Environmentally and politically friendly they are also an excellent value, as well as gorgeous. Check out www.diamondnexuslabs.com - it's where my fiance is buying me my dream ring.
shirley
Your Comments I was proud to get my husband's grandmother's diamond solitare and he got his grandfather's ring. No regrets and the wonderful man of 23yrs didn't cheat me of my own diamond, I got two they are called diamond studded earrings. The ring is a symbol of Love. Make sure that when you look back there are no regrets, and you can say "if I had to do it again, I would do it again the same way".
Hilary
EVERY girl dreams of a big ring, whether she will admit it or not. It is funny...reading these comments. The girls are all for the nice ring and the guys seem to want to skimp. Just because she doesn't say anything when you give her a puny ring does not mean she is completely happy with it, no matter how much she loves you. Her love for you and her wedding dreams are two very different things (and those dreams have been in her head a heck of a lot longer than you...making them very hard to forget, especially since you have been recently added to the fantasy). Fantasy vs. Reality. We all know our entire fantasy is just that...an idea, a dream, but remember, too that she is not going to want to explain to all her friends and relatives why her ring is so small, especially since most of them are going to be questioning why she "settled" b/c she is on a pedestal in their eyes and only deserves the best. Or they may be questioning how well you will be able to take care of her and future offspring if the ring just doesn't match up. Yes, most of us women will get over it, but Joan is right...it is once in a lifetime and it should last a lifetime. Upgrading in ten years just makes it so much less meaningful. And what happened to struggling as newleyweds? If I remember correctly most of our parents and grandparents did it. Maybe we should take one step at a time, downsize the house and the television, take things slowly, and create lasting memories. If the woman is "THE ONE", doesn't she deserve her dream to come true? And can't you give up the flatscreen plasma for a couple more years?
Nik
Buying an engagement ring for more than a $1000 is stupid, your are getting her another one soon enough any way. I agree w/ several others, if she demands a huge diamond, DUMP HER, you will never be able to impress her.
Stephanie
My husband spent a good bit on my ring only to have it stolen out of his car. I was really upset! Then we had to come back and buy another ring. So when it was all said and done my ring cast almost 4 months salary. But we wanted something that would last a life time. i didn't want to upgrade in 10 years i want to keep the ring he gave me for the rest of my life. Its so worth it!
Joe
Don't even buy a Diamond people. They are useless.
mike
I ended up doing something a bit different that may or may not make sense... I found a respected jeweler who does custom work, and designed her engagement ring with the help of the in house designers...
instead of picking a ring based on the price... i built a ring based on the specifics that I wanted and I thought she wanted and it ended up being much less expensive than what i was prepared to spend... this was partially because she wanted a sapphire and not a diamond
Bruce
I am all for blowing the big one for my lady, but this business of..."you're paying for a fantasy, not a ring, and this is the one time in your life that you should step up to the plate and truly deliver because it is so rare in this world that any of us ever get to make or have a dream come true."
Crock of crap is right...a person must lead a pretty empty and unfullfilling life to think the fantasy of a big diamond ring and expensive wedding will make them happy. If that's the case, you're not with the right person so keep lookin.
Shaun
Some folks told me, "Spend $1000 more than you feel comfortable spending"... that turned out to be good advice, I think, since I'm a bit of a cheapskate and had started in my head at 6 weeks salary and moved down from there... that extra $1000 went a long way in getting a beautiful ring. You can get a Very nice ring for a lot less than 2 months gross income... I took my sister-in-law and she was great... knew how to make them show her lots of different looks, etc... in the end I picked it out, of course.
Alisha
At first when my fiance surprised me with my ring, I was disappointed. The main diamond was too small, I thought, and I had wanted a solitaire while I got a ring with many small diamonds. I thought he was cheaping out. It would have been nice to get a huge diamond, but you know what? I got over it. Plus now we have a lot more money for our honeymoon and for our downpayment. Don't listen to the 2 month salary thing. You'll be wasting your money.
joan
when my husband and i first got engaged, i decided to put away my girlish fantasies of having a big fancy engagement ring and a big fancy wedding in favor of things that are "worthwhile". everyone was happy that i was such a practical bride and i agreed with them. but, although i love my husband more than anything and we have a wonderful marriage, i always regretted it. where did all that money we were so smartly saving go? a laptop, clothes, a nespresso machine, restaurants, a sofa. all nice things, but none compare. the best things in life are those moments that are completely unpractical, we all deal with boring routine for the rest of our lives and especially once we are married we no longer can hope for that mysterious hero/heroine to pop out of the blue on a white horse and rescue us---when we decide to marry someone, we have to become his/her hero and hope we get the same in return. in retrospect, i think if you have the opportunity to make a dream come true for someone you love (assuming that, though it will set you back considerably, it will not put you on welfare) you should absolutely do it. you only get to propose once, you only get to go through a wedding once, and even if a diamond ring seems like a silly extravagance and it seems ridiculous to pay that much for a tiny little rock as opposed to a car, or a flat screen tv, or whatever else---believe me, that ring lasts forever and you only have one chance to make a woman really feel like she is worth more than anything in the world. you're paying for a fantasy, not a ring, and this is the one time in your life that you should step up to the plate and truly deliver because it is so rare in this world that any of us ever get to make or have a dream come true.
Since your not going to sell this ring ANYWAYS, this is a crock of crap. It's a token of your relationship, and nothing more. Get a ring that she likes, and try to save your money for something worthwhile, like food or a house. Or a charity.
Brett
I understand where this is coming from, but holy cow! If I spend that much, we'll be honeymooning in Indiana!
Rob
Cool! Very cool.
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