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After reading this list of groomsman duties, you will see that being a groomsman is no laughing matter. This is one wedding where you can't just slack off and party down with all the single girls the whole time(although you definitely might meet someone!)

You have a real role to play, so take it seriously. You should also know that your job as a groomsman will also require a monetary commitment.

You will be required to pay for your tuxedo rental, travel expenses, hotel accommodations and possibly even wedding day transportation. You will also be expected to contribute to the cost of organizing the bachelor party. And, of course, you must not forget the gift for the newlyweds.

If you don't think you are up for the challenge of being a groomsman or if you don't think you can afford it, then do the groom a favor and graciously decline his offer to have you in his wedding party. He'll appreciate your honesty. Nothing is worse than a great buddy who: 1) can't actually commit, 2) who commits but then pulls out, or 3) forgets to get fitted for his tux, shows up late or forgets the details. And hey, we can't blame you - a groomsman is a bit of a prop. You may be focused on hanging out with your other buddies at the wedding. But at least be a good prop!

Before you decide to be part of the wedding, you may first wish to peruse this list of duties.

Months before the wedding

  • Get fitted for your tuxedo
  • Help the groom and best man with their tasks
  • Help the best man organize the bachelor party
  • Start thinking about your wedding speech

Days before the wedding

  • If you are making a wedding speech, have you honed it to perfection?
  • Help set up and clean up after the bachelor party, rehearsal dinner and, of course, the wedding
  • Pick up your tuxedo on time and take care of any issues yourself
  • Help decorate the ceremony venue (e.g., church or synagogue)
  • Attend the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner
  • Be supportive - the groom needs you!

Wedding day

  • Get ready and follow the itinerary that the groom has given you – be on time for everything!
  • Be supportive - the groom needs you!
  • Greet and seat guests at the ceremony
  • Escort the mother of the groom to her seat
  • Escort the mother of the bride to her seat
  • Escort a bridesmaid down the aisle
  • Attend the photography sessions before, during and after the wedding ceremony
  • Sit at the head table during the reception
  • Dance with a bridesmaid at the reception
  • At the end of the reception, help clean up and possibly attend to the gifts
  • Return your tuxedo
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Dave
Tue, Sep.16th 2008
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Yup.......sure sounds like a lot of work, but i'm honored to be a groomsman. In fact, for all those complaining about the cost.....I am doing this two weeks in a row for two of my buddies weddings. That's two stags, 2 fittings, 2 tux rentals, 2 rehersals, 2 hotels, 2 gifts. All in two weeks! But it will be fun
CU
Wed, Aug.13th 2008
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WOW!!!!! this is news to me. I always thought that the groom handled the tuxedo rentals.
Amanda
Thu, May.29th 2008
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These ideas are very helpful and informative to all us girls who need to plan in advance :) Amanda
alex
Thu, May.29th 2008
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great information and very helpful.
groomsperson
Wed, May.28th 2008
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What if you are a groomman who is actually a woman?
paul
Sat, May.24th 2008
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Lamin - you aren't probably going to be asked to give a speech. It's typically only the best man.
Lamin
Fri, Apr.11th 2008
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Do I have to give a speech on the wedding day or do they have to say anything about me.
Andrew
Sun, Dec.16th 2007
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JJ - I think you should totally take the opportunity to dance with the hot bridesmaid. It's very good training with how to be ballsy with women ;) Have fun!!! Be confident and forget the awkward thing.
JJ
Sun, Dec.16th 2007
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well, i'm still a teenager, so dancing with the bridesmaid at the reception might get a little aquward
ric
Mon, Nov.12th 2007
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Totally in agreement - number one thing is to take care of the tux - never complain about the colors or anything like that. Just take care of the tux and have it done early
II
Wed, Oct.31st 2007
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there actually is a lot to do as a groomsman. As a former groom and groomsmen in a few weeks, I can say the most important thing to reduce the stress levels of the bride is to get the tux long before the wedding.

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