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Are You Ready for the Night of Your Life?

It may be your first time - or at least your first time as a husband. Regardless, you expect something different physically, emotionally . . . or just somehow different. Sex on your wedding night carries ambiguous expectations and high hopes for thoroughly familiar terrain. As you walk back to your hotel room at the end of the evening, you will feel a combination of exhilaration and exhaustion. Ultimately, only one of these competing sensations will win.

Forget the Hype

Much of the drama surrounding wedding night sex is lore, handed down by generations (claiming to, or successfully) abstaining until matrimony. The majority of brides and grooms these days have engaged in some form of pre-marital sex, but wedding night performance applies if you and your bride are virgins, or decidedly not.

While you're likely not navigating the female form for the first time, be ready for a different set of jitters. You may find yourself struggling to perform, or even forcing yourself to get in the mood. Don't worry; the beautiful lady on the other side of the veil will be thinking the same thing.

The best day of your life will not be the easiest. After having trouble sleeping the night before, you will fight boredom until it is time to dress, having watched weekend rerun movies until you slam the remote and pace in frustration. Your day starts in late afternoon or early evening with the ceremony and may last well into the next morning. Sometime after midnight, you and your wife are in an emotional maelstrom, tired and alone at last.

If you catch a second wind, go with the urge. Many, though, will struggle with the decision. Wedding night sex shifts form the discovery of parts unknown to tacit obligation. What do you do? article continues...
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Fri, May.6th 2011
my wedding night was awful. my husband demanded anal sex and pumped my arse hole like a jack hammer. I could hardly walk the next day or sit down on my torn butt hole.worst of all he fucked my arse every night on our honey moon.
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Wed, Dec.22nd 2010
I totally agree with everything that Max Power wrote. My husband and I have been married for 37 years,and we both saved ourselves for marriage. There are more important things in a relationship,then just sex.
Tue, Nov.23rd 2010
Avoiding premarital sex for me as a christian is not a matter of choice but a scriptural obligation from God's own standpoint.My fiancee and i habe been dating for a year and one month now and we've not had sex. The result: increased love for each other,trust, respect and a deep sense of satisfaction.We'll be getting married next year February.
Tue, Oct.5th 2010
my husband demanded anal for the first time on our wedding night,it was painful and very messy when I lost control of my bowels, Then he made me suck his dick clean. I will never forget my wedding night and neither will my poor arse!!!!!!!!
Thu, Sep.23rd 2010
No-one here has the right to judge! If you want to abstain until marriage, go for it! If you don't want to wait, then don't.. seriously! What has happened to the world that everyone thinks their opinions are so important!?
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Tue, May.4th 2010
Your Comments I will never go on a honeymoon. It would be so awful to be at the beginning stages of matrony.I do not want to be a mommy.
Fri, Apr.23rd 2010
its cool to be a virgin,u walk up straight on your wedding day since its a day of change and great experience.big ups to all virgins.God keep you
Fri, Apr.23rd 2010
To Michael and Seth: You're the dumbass idiots/ dorks that need to shut up. Who do you think you are, judging other people for what they want to do? You both are nothing but pompus children that need to get a life and a real glimpse on reality. Stupid fools....
Sat, Feb.6th 2010
And to just about everyone else here...GROW UP! Really...Name calling just because someone chooses to save themselves for marriage most of us are raised better than that. I am not a virgin and neither was my husband but we do know the difference being in love makes with sex. I may not have been married to the first person I had sex with but I was in love with them. And I have also had sex with someone I was not in love with and if you've even been in a sexual relationship with someone you love, you would know that it is not the same because what you people don't realize is they could do no wrong in bed, you don't love them because of what they can do in bed. It doesn't matter because there is comfort and trust there, it's actually quite fun to be able to laugh about the mishaps without feeling like a total idiot who should have known how to do it right or better the first time you've tried it. I hope someday you find love then you will know what everyone else here is talking about... until then enjoy the ignorance while you can because before you know it someone is going to come along and change all of your views...then you'll feel like a dumb-ass. HA HA. Peace!
Sat, Feb.6th 2010
You've been married for 2 years?? And he's waiting for the wedding night?? Sounds like the day has come and gone to me... Don't know about your situation but it sounds like you two need to sit down and at least talk about it Sarah.
Wed, Jan.6th 2010
we are married for 2 years and my husband doesnot make love with me and his excuse is that,he is waiting for our wedding night,but he is laying because he kept me virgin.what do i do?
Fri, Nov.13th 2009
Well said Max Power, compatibility has nothing to do with it. Sex is founded on much much more than the act itself, and whether it's good or not likely has nothing to do with whether you can perform, but more to do with how the rest of your relationship is. Take care of the rest and sex will fall into place. Communication, love languages, and commitment, and trust, among many other qualities are what will create a quality lasting relationship. Get it straight people and get your priorities in line.
Sun, Oct.11th 2009
My fioncee and I are not virgins, but have rededicated ourselves to waiting until marriage (before we met)...by the time we get married next March, we will have been together almost two years, and while I am so glad we have waited, I am so flipping nervous about it...it's worse than being a virgin and not knowing what to expect!
Max Power
Thu, Aug.6th 2009
The people in here talking about how important it is to have sex before you're married are idiots. The claims that “sexual incompatibility” is a leading cause of divorce are total rubbish. There are many studies showing that couples who abstain from sex until they’re married have much higher success rates, and it’s got nothing to do with sex. This is marriage we're talking about. You supposedly love someone so much that you want them to be your wife or husband. Are you saying that your love has conditions to it? My fiancé and I have been together 10 years and although we want to, we have never had sex. I love her more than anything in the world. She is my reason for living. Now, when we get married, if she isn't any good in bed, do you think I'll care? Do you think I won't want to be with her anymore? I love the girl! My love for her is unconditional. That's all there is to it. I couldn't even give a damn if we never have sex. All I care about is being with her, and her happiness. The reason why not having sex before marriage works is because the people who do it don't care if the sex ends up being bad. They care about something far more important; the love between them. If you think that being "sexually incompatible" is a reason not to marry your fiancé, then you shouldn't be getting married. Only when you truly love them will you not care.
Sun, Aug.2nd 2009
I think waiting is great! I just think it leads to awkward situations. Premarital sex can prevent the divorce of a couple. Sexual incompatibility is a leading factor in divorce. What if you two never get it right? I find it logical to have sex beforehand, so does my lady. Though we will abstain for a period of time beforehand, it is thoroughly understood that we know what the heck we are doing and it will be fun. Some of your testosterone levels seem to think you must prove something! Do what you want, just know that statistics are based on fact! Would you rather know sooner or later?
Sat, Jul.11th 2009
While it is my opinion that those who wait to have sex until marriage are indeed to be praised, it isn't for their wisdom, rather their awesome self control. It is true that you only have a 60% chance of being truely compatible with your partner, and being incompatible with someone you are married to is one reason that so many couples were so miserable before pre-marital sex, or divorce became common place.
Thu, Jul.9th 2009
I am getting married very soon and found this site in an effort to help my husband-to-be find some gift ideas for the guys. I just wanted to say I believe abstaining can be good for the start of your new life together, no matter if it is the first time you have been together sexually or not. My fiancee and I have been dating 7 yrs now and we are certainly not virgins and have had other sexual relationships before. What we have decided to do is abstain for about 5-6 mos before our wedding night. In my opinion,(and I know some of you will think it's stupid) this will make our union as husband and wife more special and meaningful. We both miss eachothers bodies a lot, and I know when we do finally get to be together after marriage I will enjoy every aspect of making love to my husband all the more. We also decided to stop living together during this time. We visit one another, and it feels like the early days of our relationship all over again. We can't wait to be able to enjoy the sexual part of our relationship and it's because we decided to abstain.It won't just be another "night in the sack"
but i love her.............
Thu, Apr.16th 2009
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Wed, Mar.25th 2009
I personally see nothing wrong with this article, I believe it was meant to calm (some) grooms fears about wedding night sex (rather it's your first time or your 1000th). To me, it simply implied that SOME, not ALL, who claim to be virgins on their wedding night might have told stories to couples (virgins or not), that may have freaked them out. The majority of people HAVE engaged in pre-martial sex (their choice), but not all have (also there choice). Wedding night sex (or lack thereof) happens (or not) regardless of if you are a virgin or not. I think it very close minded (on both sides) to assume that because you AREN'T a virgin on your wedding night that you have had sex with EVERY partner or every person you have dated. I am marrying my fiance, i've had sex with him and ONE other person, i'm not some "animal" or something and niether is he. On the flip side, it is wrong to assume virgins are "religious freaks" or "geeks/dorks" there is nothing wrong with following any religion if that is so your choice (as long as you aren't breaking the law) and since when is a geek/dork a bad thing, some of the geekiest/dorkiest people in the world are the wealthiest. What's with some people?
Wed, Jan.28th 2009
What's with all the hating, folks? (This is a website for those of us who are about to marry someone we love deeply, right?) There's no need to be cynical about one another's positions. If you're happy about where you and your fiancee/fiance are at and are headed, then we should all be as happy as a stranger can be for you. It's cool to appreciate and respect one another's differences... there's no need to be defensive. I'll be 28 when my fiance and I get married this August, and he will be my first. I've waited-- that was my choice-- and I'm absolutely comfortable with that. It won't be his first time, but my fiance has waited a long time since then, so that it can be something we share together. And, I've gotta say... it's going to be all that a honeymoon should be, and I'm thankful for the man I get to share it with. Peace and joy to all of you. (Enjoy your lucky day... and all the days afterward...)
A Sinner
Mon, Jan.19th 2009
To all "V-Card holders", you have no idea how important sexual compatibility really is. I cannot believe that someone can actually start a family without knowing if they match in bed. Ideally marriages should last for a life-time and is silly to risk your life-time happiness over your proud-virgin-I-am-so-virtuous-saved-myself tradition.
BJ girl
Sat, Jan.17th 2009
Wedding night performance? LOL Be romantic and have fun. Make sure that you get her off as I am sure she will do the same for you. Let all the lovin begin in the whirlpool tub in your honeymoon suite! oh''''''' yaaaaaaaaa
Tue, Dec.23rd 2008
Your Comments Might i suggest that groomgroove offer an alternative article or link to address performance anxiety for those who have not yet had sex as i think it is an entirely different issue than that which this article addresses. I personally found the article to be helpful in reminding us not to let expectations dictate what feels right regardless of your virginal status and offered some good advice for those more experienced readers. Might i also suggest age verification of some sort.
Wed, Nov.19th 2008
In response to "areyouallkidding?!", I don't know what you're trying to prove by posting this gemstone on the message board: "Wow. I plan on having sex with my new husband in the bridal room during the reception, and multiple times the back in the wedding suite. I feel bad for all you and your way boring sex lives." If you are so awesome, then why did you click on a story entitled "wedding night performance for grooms" and why do need to announce to the world your sexual prowess rather than just quietly doing it like those of us who do it all the time. (For whom it isn't a hang-up.)
Wed, Oct.29th 2008
Wow. I plan on having sex with my new husband in the bridal room during the reception, and multiple times the back in the wedding suite. I feel bad for all you and your way boring sex lives.
Sat, Oct.11th 2008
I, and my ex-wife, were virgins when we got married at age 20. I was looking forward to sharing a beautiful experience with a woman I loved, but on our wedding night, she told me that she wasnt ready to have sex. We were married for two years before separating, and I was still a virgin when our marriage was dissolved a year after that. I think it is very noble and admirable that some people choose to wait to consummate their relationship until their wedding day, but whether you abstain or not, both partners have to be open, honest, and willing to talk about their sexual needs and desires before and after they get married, or you may find yourself in the same boat that I did. I'm getting married again next September, needless to say, I learned my lesson :)
Wedding Planner
Thu, Sep.25th 2008
While I am personally waiting for marriage, that doesn't mean that I am automatically judging someone who hasn't. I'm helping my friend plan her wedding so I am not speaking as a bride to be. I haven't found my future husband but that doesn't mean that I have unrealistic expectations either. While I hope that he's waited too, that doesn't mean that I would reject him if he hasn't waited. Likewise, I would trust that he respects me enough to not look down upon me for my inexperience and wanting to be able to share something special with him. While some of you like to think that you're liberated and very postmodern, is it truly liberating to judge the choices that others have made throughout their lives? That goes for both sides. When you get married, it's about starting anew with the person you plan to spend your life with. Let's remember that and stop mocking each other for our choices.
Sun, Aug.31st 2008
While perusing the comments here then looking at your stated ages, the content and tone of the comments and the numerous spelling and grammatical errors contained therein, nine tenths of you are too young and too stupid to get married in the first place. I'm going to be married next year and have seen both sides of this argument...I was one of those hardcore wait till marriage types and almost married the wrong guy. Luckily I snapped out of it. I've also been a stripper, which is what occasioned my meeting my groom to be in the first place. The point is that snap decisions about other people, seeing things in black and white and believing that your way is the only way to think are immature and more importantly will be counter productive if you're serious about having a healthy lifelong marriage with someone.
Mon, Aug.25th 2008
It's all a matter of personal values. Some are religious, some aren't (and some religions don't prescribe that you wait until marriage to have sex, for that matter). Either way, it'll (or should be) more special with the person you've decided to spend the rest of your life with. If you've opted to wait for the one, good for you. If not, just the same. I am not a virgin and in my case I think having experience with other partners has given me the experience to be a better lover. I don't think that's the ONLY avenue however, and come back to the point of "to each their own." We live in a society that values independent choice, however we're all guilty of leaning toward the thinking that "my choice is better than yours."
Sat, Aug.23rd 2008
Living with her two years before the official marriage, so I'm in effect married and not a bit nervous about the wedding at all. We'll be too tired for sex though after reception and PREFER SLEEP, but the honeymoon will be great. very relieved some "so-called religion or so-called church" is not guiding my ceremony with "phony-bologna" of abstaining and "sex on first night" stuff
Fri, Aug.22nd 2008
This is to all of those people like Seth who believe that people who wait for sex are losers. Its people like Seth who make comments like that who are the real losers and they will regret there beliefs later on in life. Abstaining yourself from sex is best gift you could ever give your wife. My fiancee and I are both virgins, and I am so glad that i am not bringing any baggage like previous sex into the relationship. Its about discipline and holding true to core beliefs, and not going around like some animal and screwing every girl you date. To those that have had premarital sex and wish they didn't, i say that there is always forgiveness and a new leaf to turn over. Plus that poser who says that you might marry someone who sucks at sex, its about practice and practice makes perfect. And guess what you can relish in the fact that you and your new bride know eachother like no one else. Sex is an emotional, physical, and spiritual covenant between husband and wife.
Fri, Jul.18th 2008
I'm just turning 18 years old in a few months how do I not end up like these loser that wait to get married, the idea seems ludicrous you are about to spend the next five years married to some one that might be horrible at sex your nuts
Wed, Jun.18th 2008
i thought the article was great, had alot of good tips and advice in it. for everyone else who is just trying to flaunt their opinions, try to keep in mind that its for the general public, the majority, hence the "masses". what may seem the majority to you will not be the majority to someone else because it depends on who you surround yourself with. try to keep an open mind about things, and if it does not appeal to you, skip over it, don't condemn it. neither me or my future wife are virgins, but we were when we first met, so we got to explore each other for the first time. i understand what it is you are talking about when you sugest saving yourself until marriage. it IS more special with the one that you love, but for those of you who don't want to wait, you don't have to. the essence behind "saving yourself" is to share a new part of yourself with someone that you love. waiting until that one night is just an old tradition, one that has grown until it has created this stigma about it that groomgroove has addressed. thanks groomgroove, actually without your help, i'd be lost during this whole thing.
Wed, May.21st 2008
I'm 21, getting married in 4 months and neither myself or my bride-to-be has ever had sex. We are so excited to experience sex for the first time with each other, we can hardly stand it. Yes, we were raised that his was the best way, and I couldn't be happier. Why have meaningless sex when you can have it with the love of your life! God designed sex for marriage, and that's where it's most fulfilling!
Walt in Little Rock
Sun, May.4th 2008
I'm 43 Years old and am in no way, uh umm, a 40 yr. old virgin. and have been married once before as has been my future wife. We chose on Nov. 7th, 2007, (the day we became engaged) to hold off on sex and have 6 months of pre-marriage counciling. We decided to do this because we both had marriages before that were based on sex and obviously those NEVER work, so we wanted to base this marriage on our Love for one another because we knew that we would have the rest of our lives to have all the sex we wanted with a strong foundation beneath us. So I say to Michael you are either very young and lost and probably living at home with Momma or will never be in ANY type of meaningful relationship that you have to attack others for their desire to do the right thing, not to mention keeping the sanctity of marriage intact. So to ALL of you younger people who wish to hold off until marriage, NEVER pay attention to people like MICHAEL ^ above. You are NOT a dork just because your doing the correct thing for the sake of your marriage. Good for all of you!!!!!
Wed, Mar.19th 2008
I am not a virgin but I agree with the comments Jerrod, bride to be and others posted. I believe this article could have taken a different approach to include and help those that will be making love to there bride to be for the first time. More power to the guys that waited until marriage because they will be able to give there future wives something the rest of us can't.... give themselves entirely to whom they love, I wish I could have given this gift to my future wife to be.
Sun, Feb.24th 2008
I am getting married in July and both my bride-to-be and I are virgins. Way to go Jerrod for waiting! I agree with him in that I found some information on here that was helpful but the way the beginning of this article was worded was poor taste. For those you who think that being a virgin means you are a dork or a religious freak I would say this; Those of us men who have chosen to abstain until we find the one special girl to share that moment with can give our brides something that many other men can't and I for one am proud of that. I don't judge others who have chosen differently, but I'm tired of the stereotype that virgins are dorks, wussies, or uptight prudes.
Thu, Jan.31st 2008
Saving yourself for marriage Jarrod? You must be a super dork or a religious freak. Gimme a break?! it's 2008. Get with it dude !
Fri, Jan.18th 2008
I have to agree with Jerrod and the Future Bride. I believe this would be a more profitable article if it were written with the good guys in mind as well... The virgins who save themselves for marriage and don't get wasted away with alcohol and cheap sex. The "masses" aren't what you think they are.
Thu, Jan.10th 2008
After reading the article, I think the ideas presented are good for any couple.
Future Bride
Sat, Jan.5th 2008
I have been reading up on a few sites for my future husband who really wants to help, but doesn't know where to start. This site is MUCH better than the site I recently read about how not to come home "in the dog house" after spending the evening with erotic dancers and prostitues. This site gives good advice on some things, but I agree with Jerrod. My groom and I are also virgins and are anxiously waiting our wedding night together. There are more "V" card holders in the world than you think... and even those who aren't virgins may have a different idea of their wedding night than these so called "masses"
Sun, Dec.30th 2007
It's hard to please everyone. Thanks for the comment.
Sat, Dec.29th 2007
I've been eagerly but patiently wading through these articles, eating the meet and spitting out the many bones, and this is the last article I will read on this website. After "Chastity has never been the choice of GroomGroove.com" and "I'm writing for the masses," as well as several remarks about drunken bachelor parties, it's obvious that this website doesn't really have the "masses" in mind, but maintains a pretty narrow spectrum in their target audience, forgetting the large and signicantly growing population of young men who are intentionally saving themselves for marriage, and who don't equate a "party" with a combination of alcohol and exotic dancers. Thanks for the effort, though.

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