Are You Ready for the Night of Your Life?

It may be your first time - or at least your first time as a husband. Regardless, you expect something different physically, emotionally . . . or just somehow different. Sex on your wedding night carries ambiguous expectations and high hopes for thoroughly familiar terrain. As you walk back to your hotel room at the end of the evening, you will feel a combination of exhilaration and exhaustion. Ultimately, only one of these competing sensations will win.

Forget the Hype

Much of the drama surrounding wedding night sex is lore, handed down by generations claiming to abstain until matrimony. It is unlikely that your wedding night will involve a pair of clumsy virgins (no, not in addition to you and your wife) cutting through the palpable nervous energy. If that is the case for you, don't bother reading further; I'm writing for the masses.

While you won't be navigating the female form for the first time, be ready for a different set of jitters. You may find yourself struggling to perform, or even forcing yourself to get in the mood. Don't worry; the beautiful lady on the other side of the veil will be thinking the same thing.

The best day of your life will not be the easiest. After having trouble sleeping the night before, you will fight boredom until it is time to dress, having watched weekend rerun movies (like The Shawshank Redemption, again) until you slam the remote and pace in frustration. Your day starts in late afternoon or early evening with the ceremony and may last well into the next morning. Sometime after midnight, you and your wife are in an emotional maelstrom, tired and alone at last.

If you catch a second wind, go with the urge. Many, though, will struggle with the decision. Wedding night sex shifts form the discovery of parts unknown to tacit obligation. What do you do? article continues...
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