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I've married for 17 years. Our sex life began to stagnate after the honeymoon. We literally went from having sex every day to once a month for the next few years. I realized however that my dissatisfaction came from my intense desire for anal sex. So I bought myself a strap on and had a little talk with my husband. We realized we both really enjoy it when I do him up the rear end and ever since our sex life has been incredible!

Money is the root of all evil. I willingly had a cheap wedding... Me & my husband wnt 2 the justice of the piece. He is a jehova's witness & he had been disfellowshiped. Plus i was not a member of the religion so his church wld not marry us. Not many women agree 2 the cheap wedding deal. Hell my wedding dress coast me $30 at berlingtons!!!!! Our family's where there & we had a reception at coplands & everything which my mother did her part & paid 4. So all i asked since i didn't get my dream wedding was a honeymoon cruise. My husband is a LPN so he makes enough money & we planned it months in advance so we paid the cheapest rate. So bc of ths he feels the need 2 wrk 160 hrs a pay period!!!!!!! WTF???!!!!! So i might as well stayed single! i didn't get married 4 my husband 2 never be hm (and when he is he is tired and asleep) & always at wrk. Money is our main problem. I knw he is faithful he & he knows i am. Whn your married it's another set of challenges & different problems. People get married thinkin after tht it's all hunky dory (happy ever after) but it's jst the start of different challenges to come. Whn you've found a faithful spouse who has a career & the mind set your lookin 4 you don't realize in marriage it's all the little things tht matter. You may think @ the time of the down on bended knee (oh i can over look this or that) like the little things don't matter bc he/she is the best you ever had & your worried you won't find anyone as good or better then later you realize dang..... If he/she does this one more time i'm gonna go crazy.... You have to have the TRUE mind set... Yes things will go wrong and we will at times let each other down but i truly love this person for who they are and they are worth the pissin me off times. Also know when to let the other person win (choose your battles). You just have to know what is exceptable and what's not. It's never ok to take a man or women hitting you, cheating on you or downing you. Be strong and know that your worth much more and lean on friends & fam for emotional support. Life is too short to love/be with someone who makes you sad all the time. I'd rather be a hoe then an unhappy women stuck on a bumb, broke, or abusive man that depresses me all the time.

You are full of shit "soon to be married"

I think everyone has a good point only the person that has written this article is right. From a girls perspective most guys do not think about this at all and they continue being who they are after marriage if not worse- only from what I have seen- until the woman gets fed up and leaves for someone who will at least compromise for her because guys you forget women cant stand messy men, guys who do w/e they please and do not consult her (communications) or guys that do not put her or the kids first...everything else we mostly compromise because we love the other greatly and do not wish to loose them over such simple matters. Also you can be yourself but change a little because not all women will put up with stuff and some guys really want to be with "that one" so how else do you feel like your going to get to that one and keep her if u do not change a little"...think about it.

I think this artical is very steryotypical. In fact, the most important factors are not even included in this. The key to holding a decent marriage is honesty, if your not, then it's a done deal. What most people worry about is the money and the sex but thats not the real problem most couples face. Even if you check the charts and the articles in magazines, do you really think if someone lied in their relationship their going to publicly announce it?? No, their not but most people put off an impression in the begining that they are someone who they are not to further the relationship and thats the real problem. If you are yourself on the first date and so forth you dont have to worry about the sex and money later on. You will already know whats going to happen because you were honest in the begining.