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married life after the honeymoon

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The honeymoon is over now, literally and metaphorically. Your bags may still be unpacked from the whirlwind tuxedo-to-trunks costume change, but there's no going back now. Everything you and your bride (or Bridezilla) had been planning, looking forward to, and obsessing over for the last year is history. All that remains are pictures, and a new definition of your relationship: marriage.

What feels so different to a married couple after the honeymoon? Abruptly going from being the center of attention, to a return to the day-to-day after a honeymoon is often very palpable for newlyweds. Recent groom Dan Wheeler, 30 says: "the most difficult part of the post-honeymoon period was when people would ask 'do you feel different?'- partly because it didn't feel any different. Maybe I was disappointed because of that." Other than referring to her as "my wife" and not "my girlfriend", what has truly changed in your relationship? Have you suddenly, and unwittingly joined the ranks of boring married couples roaming the cities and towns of the world? GroomGroove thinks not. Why? Because marriage doesn't have to be boring.

Moving In

Couples who haven't yet lived together will be in for the most intense transition. Hopefully she can put up with your nighttime teeth grinding and Monday Night Football, and you will lovingly learn to incorporate vegetables back into your diet and yoga into your gym routine. It will be important to focus on the positive factors of living together, rather than allowing yourself to get bogged down in the negative ones. (The fact that you always leave a mess behind, or that you've now become even more intimately familiar with her monthly cycle.) GroomGroove.com's advice to you is to curb any messy, annoying habits that are simply unbearable, and urge your bride to do likewise. This type of change can only lead to an improved lifestyle, and reduce the potential for conflict between the two of you. There's plenty of room for compromise and habits worth defending (The aforementioned Monday Night Football), but leaving your dirty clothes on the floor isn't one of them.

Money Matters

"Money issues," reports Claire Meillet, 28, of Chicago, Illinois "led to our first real 'fight'. Rob and I had tried to maintain separate bank accounts, but I was always the one buying groceries, from my account. I had had enough. We needed a better strategy." Money is the number one cause of friction in a marriage, and a frequent contributor to divorce. Much of that friction can be avoided in advance of getting married by having an open discussion with your fiancee about financial priorities and setting up a financial system to accomplish those goals. Check out our article on pre-marital financial planning for some specific ways to get on the same financial page with your bride-to-be before you tie the knot. article continues...
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soon to be married
Thu, Aug.12th 2010
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Its amazing how divorce rates were almost non-existant when a woman knew her place in the relationship. The mans job is to be the provider for the family and the womans job is to take care of the house on the inside, the kids, and to cook. I agree that the man should not make a mess. He should have his shoes removed when he arrives home, dinner should be cooked, and after dinner, his spouse should wash the dishes, therefor there would be no oppurtunity for him to make a mess. If I am providing financial support for an entire family then is it really to much to ask to keep the house clean, cook dinner, and raise the kids?
soon to be married to "soon t
Thu, Aug.12th 2010
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You are full of shit "soon to be married"
soon to be married
Thu, Aug.12th 2010
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Depressing.......I have always and will always run the show, and she is fully aware of that. I let her have the little battles but ultimately the final decision is mine.
Angel
Thu, Jul.1st 2010
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I think everyone has a good point only the person that has written this article is right. From a girls perspective most guys do not think about this at all and they continue being who they are after marriage if not worse- only from what I have seen- until the woman gets fed up and leaves for someone who will at least compromise for her because guys you forget women cant stand messy men, guys who do w/e they please and do not consult her (communications) or guys that do not put her or the kids first...everything else we mostly compromise because we love the other greatly and do not wish to loose them over such simple matters. Also you can be yourself but change a little because not all women will put up with stuff and some guys really want to be with "that one" so how else do you feel like your going to get to that one and keep her if u do not change a little"...think about it.
married also
Mon, Aug.31st 2009
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Yes you are right the bliss of marriage is over honesty is very important but so is forgiveness and to be successful you must not be selfish if you look for your partners intrest first you will be happy and although most people have lived together there are still some wholsome people out there who have not.
married
Tue, Oct.7th 2008
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I think this artical is very steryotypical. In fact, the most important factors are not even included in this. The key to holding a decent marriage is honesty, if your not, then it's a done deal. What most people worry about is the money and the sex but thats not the real problem most couples face. Even if you check the charts and the articles in magazines, do you really think if someone lied in their relationship their going to publicly announce it?? No, their not but most people put off an impression in the begining that they are someone who they are not to further the relationship and thats the real problem. If you are yourself on the first date and so forth you dont have to worry about the sex and money later on. You will already know whats going to happen because you were honest in the begining.

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