The only caveat to this approach would be if you happen to have a life-altering reason for your dislike or distrust of his fiancée. (For example: you have concrete proof she's cheating on him all over town; she's got a serious rap sheet the groom doesn't know about; she's been married seven times to millionaires and has the bling to show for it. You get the idea.) As best man, if you know something important, something your best friend would certainly want to know about his future wife, then it's your duty to tell him. Don't be foolish and wait until he's putting on his tux; make sure you speak with him early on during the engagement. However, if this "important" information is your distaste for her preferred breakfast cereal or favorite movie, please refrain from rocking the boat. A recent best man, Joshua Bolten, 29, astutely points out, "As the best man, you're a relatively minor part of this major event and that event is not about you. It's about two people who love each other. Though your emotions may not be in it to the full extent, it's still your responsibility to entertain and support the groom."

Commonly, friends of the groom dislike the wife-to-be for an immature yet completely understandable reason: she's taking him away from you! You fear the pickup basketball games and Friday happy hours will be things of past once he's married. In reality, unless she plans on having him chained to the washing machine with a medieval torture device, those activities will surely continue. However, there's no denying that his life will change and in turn, so will yours. It's all a part of the process and unless you firmly believe that the world should remain forever static and unaltered, you'll learn to adjust.

So, now, how do you put those personal differences aside and succeed in not only tolerating, but enhancing your best friend's wedding experience? GroomGroove.com suggests a step-by-step breakdown.

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