TC, Sorry to hear that you and your bride-to-be are battling Mama. If your bride-to-be still lives at home, this may be a case of her mother feeling as though she's losing her daughter and losing control. The first, and most important question I have for you is: Are your future in-laws paying for, or financially contributing to your wedding? Ideally, even if the answer to that question is yes, your future mother-in-law would let you do things your way. But in reality, money talks and does technically give contributors some say in how the Big Day goes. My advice to you is, stay positive and don't let her bring you down. If there are some details of the wedding that you could concede to her, great. Just make sure the really important decisions are yours. Always thank her for her suggestions, but let her know that you guys have researched and made the right decisions for YOUR wedding. If she continues to gripe, you may need to have another sit-down to say: "We really appreciate all of your ideas, but we have made our decisions and we are looking to keep this event as positive and stress-free as possible. We appreciate your support in the matter." If all else fails, delegate a wedding task to her to keep her occupied. Four months can be a very short, or very long time, depending on how it's spent. Good luck to you!

My Fiancee and I are having serious troubles with her Mom. Her mom is trying to take over the wedding. She and I want to get Married at 3 in the afternoon her mom wants 7 likely cuz she got married at 7. the wedding is 4 months away her mom says that there isn't enough time to move the ceremony by 4 hours. My fiance is in school and living with her parents which complicates it even more. last night we sat down together with her parents and told them what WE wanted. it was like pouring gas on a fire. her mom got up and griped at her after i left at 11 and then before her 8:00 class griped at her again. We are almost at our wits end any advice?

Brent, if this is the girl of your dreams and the woman you're confident you want to spend the rest of your life with, then she will be there with you next year and in 3 years' time, whether you two are married or not. (And if she isn't, then she wont be!) I suggest that you wait at least another year to gain complete confidence in the relationship and see if you two are just as happy then and you can get through the tough times once the excitement of the budding romance has ended and the reality of a long-term relationship sets in. Good luck!